Am I the bitch?

My husband made plans to practice golfing for a tournament on our anniversary. Granted- he does have a local tournament he wants to practice for this weekend so I understand his want to go.

My problem is this- I asked him if he wanted me to come with him (so we could be together) and ask my stepmom to keep the kids & he just beat around the bush on it.

Later he invited a couple of his friends to go and then lied to me about it. ( I looked at his phone when he went outside) & when I asked he told me that he cancelled plans when in reality I just read the messages that prove that untrue. I’m not sure if he was just trying to see my reaction?

We started arguing over the lie and suddenly it was I just will go by me self. I reiterated that I would go with him so we could just spend the day together as it was our anniversary. He then again heated around the bush on it and never gave me an answer. Long story short I came to my stepmoms with the babies. I know it wasn’t mature but it was better than sitting home and fighting and being angry all night. He told me that if I wanted to come then just come but at that point it’s like I forced him to include me?

I personally feel like he’s choosing his friends over me on our anniversary but I also feel maybe I’m over reacting.