It’s been roughly two months since I’ve initiated some pretty hard conversations with my husband. Mostly pertaining to how unhappy and disconnected I feel. I’ve told him that I’ve felt emotionally/mentally shut down, dead sex drive, feeling depressed, disconnected from him, etc. I’m in therapy now and plan to get us in counseling. Any time I’ve told him these things he’s had pretty much nothing to say. And last time I attempted to discuss things with him he said “I’m not ready to talk yet.” And perhaps my response was a bit extreme, but I was tired of getting the run around once more. I replied with “well, when you are actually ready it may be too late.” To which he responded “I’m sorry” then walked off.

He hasn’t expressed any interest in being apart of choosing the counselor. We haven’t had sex in over a month because my body will physically protest if he does try. It’s just gone from bad to worse, and he oftentimes pretends there aren’t any issues. He’ll even get defensive when I follow up with him about it. Am I being unfair?