Me and my wife have 2 kids together. Our son is 3 almost 4 and our baby girl is 8 months. My dad and step mom were over having a cook out with us. Me and my dad have been trying to fix our relationship. I didn't know my mom because she passed away from C-section complications when I was born and my dad blamed me so he abused me throughout most of my life. He broke my arm when I was 15 and I had to lie and say it was from a football injury.

We have been on and off with contact. He wants a relationship but also wants to completely forget what he did. He got mad because my son has a habit of grabbing my work boots and putting them on. He did that with my wife's heels that day and my dad started yelling at him. I told my dad not to yell at my son. He said this would be teaching him to be gay. I said he's playing dress up. He's 3. He started demanding I be a father and do something. I told him to leave my son alone. He's being a toddler. He kept pushing and pushing and my wife got involved. He was saying I'm not being a father and if I don't stop this now our son will be a *insert gay slur*. So I said even if he is I rather my son go to school in high heels than two black eyes everyday. My dad yelled asking how dare I throw that in his face. And it was a long time ago. I told him I'm still dealing with the damages today because my sight has been effected. So he left and said he's not gonna be here just to get our past thrown back in his face. My wife is on my side but I'm starting to feel bad