My step son eats a lot a lot which is concerning. My mother in law overly feeds him I wish it was healthier food but bunch of junk food and sweets. I’m always cooking a well balanced meal. However it’s hard when we talk to her not to feed him all this junk foods because his health has gone down. She tells me she doesn’t want to cook it’s too much work. However even when I cook for him leave the food ready he doesn’t want it because he prefers junk food. She doesn’t care if he waste food. He’ll take a bite of something say I don’t want it can you give me this ? She says yes. Just let’s him threw the food away. She says it doesn’t cost her money. I’m always telling her I don’t care how much it cost what matters is the principle of him not wasting food. He’s 9 year old boy. Anyways this his morning with grandma coffee, chips with hot sauce not just one plate two plates than after that she will give him dessert like ice cream or brownie with Oreos on top. Then after that he’ll get candy from his snacks drawer even though we but him healthy food and snacks fruits and veggies. It’s hard because she lives with us. Toda my son had coffee and then two plates of chips with hot sauce than he had candy and his “dessert” after she got him a slice of Costco pizza. He ate it all with large soda. Once I got home I gave him chicken just because he doesn’t like rice he’s just going to threw it away. He went for another pizza with ranch though because grandma gave it to him. He asked me what’s for dinner. I said nothing I gave you chicken that was dinner it’s already 6pm. You’re done for today baby your tummy should be full. He said no. I was like I’m not making more dinner. Your dad is making his hamburgers only if you want to get a patty with veggies on the side that’s dinner. He said no. My mother in law butts in she was like you’re really not making dinner. I was like no I’m not. My husband is having that he’s making his own dinner. Funny I had slice of pizza for lunch from Costco I’m extremely full from it. She said what about A(my step son). I was like he had enough we would like to balance out his meals now before he gets sick. We need to before because what you give him isn’t going to benefit him it lead to diabetes or anything else. She walked away extremely mad at me and said thats ridiculous that you don’t want to make dinner. She has suffered with a heart condition where she had to much fat on her heart she had to get the weight loss surgery in order to be alive. So I don’t understand why she’s doing that to me. Everytime we tell her not to give him food like that. That’s why we buy eggs and higher protein foods and veggies and fruit for the sweet cravings. It turns to a huge argument. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Even my husband her own son hates that she’s like that because she wasn’t like that during his childhood. Would hate her own mother in law for always butting in and trying to parent now she’s doing it to me and disrespecting me because I want well balanced life for him. My husband and I have pretty active life it’s hard on my step son because he gets exhausted by the hour. His doesn’t look overweight but he can’t even keep up and he’s young he shouldn’t be exhausted at his age.

I understand kids will eat candy’s and chips but this is daily not just few chips or few candies this like an adult servings to whole bag of chips or all the candy he has. We don’t buy it for him grandma does. This what I mean by balanced meal having junk food limited with healthy food or not too healthy. It’s not a strict diet it’s balance lifestyle. I’m not almond mom whatsoever but I’m someone who cares about his wellbeing.

Edit: OMG I’m so sorry I had so many typos I was mad and texting !! I didn’t realize how much typos I have it’s upsetting me hahaha ! It has to be autocorrect