I have non stopped cried the last 26 hours…. I saw in MY suggested friends a profile with my husbands face and fake name. I got on his phone and my whole world exploded

She’s 21 he’s 52

I’m 37 for context….

He swears nothing happened he was all 😏 when I confronted him… then when I broke down crying he shifted and has been non stop comforting me, wanting to take me out, holding hands things he WOULD NOT DO with me ever despite me asking he’d always say not who I am accept it

I think I’ve died I’m so broken

He says it’s not cheating he was just making her feel good… I said it is cheating because I didn’t know about this girl. I didn’t know you had a fake Facebook or Instagram and a secret Gmail and another phone number. I asked him why did I know about this girl? He said why would you?

Is this cheating??

He says it’s not because they didn’t do anything anything sexually physically nothing he just wanted to make her feel good

I begged this man for years and years and years to give me affection information communication, intimacy extra take me out and he wouldn’t. He said that’s not who he is.