I'm so ****ing sick and tired of trying to get healthy

Savvy

I can't understand why I feel worse when I try to eat healthier. It feels like I am lacking something. I've felt on and off for years like I am deficient in something. I always drink plenty of water. I spend time in the sun and my vitamin D levels were not considered low. I have tried multivitamins, and gotten multiple tests, but a doctor never checks every single micronutrient level, just a few select ones.

It gets WORSE when I try to lose weight. It's miserable. Every time I try to eat "healthy" to lose weight,(By this I mean trying to eat no fast food, eating a variety of homemade lean meats, veggies, whole grains, fruits, nuts, healthy fats, a little dairy), my skin and lips gets extra dry, I get hot and confused, retain a ton of water, sex drive gets low, and my hair sheds a ton and I feel like I am lacking something. I don't eat tiny portions of healthy food either. When I go back to just eating whatever I crave(a mixture of healthy and unhealthy food), I gain 5 pounds but then I feel so much healthier and my skin glows.

What the hell? Can anybody relate to this? It's so frustrating and nobody believes me when I tell them sometimes I feel better eating a little Caesar pizza instead of a salad. It is not a taste issue.

I love healthy food and If it helps me feel better I would have no issues cooking more, but it just feels like I'm being nutritionally deprived after doing it for a few weeks.

I can NOT pinpoint it, I have tried so hard. It does not seem to be related to my cycle either