Am i wrong

I recently come across quite a few posts through Facebook and here, about boyfriends, significant others, husbands, or baby daddies who are looking at porn sites or only fans. These girls are getting upset and wanting to leave their guys because of it. And my wrong thinking that porn is not that big of a deal?! At least he is not going out there and actually cheating. Am I to lenient on my guy? I mean I look at it sometimes too. We have a child and another on the way and sometimes it is not easy to find intimate time together. And sometimes when we do, it feels rushed.