Husband said he will kill himself if I leave him
Me and my husband have been together for 7 years and have two beautiful children. I always thought he was honest with me. My husband is a huge gun fanatic. He gets guns from gun shows and is very pro gun. Thinks there should be less strict gun laws. All I ever asked was he keep them put away safe from the children. When we were engaged an ex reached out to me claiming he abused her. He told me she was just bitter he left so I blocked her. Last month a different ex reached out to tell me my husband is a horrible person and an abuser. I blocked her so she went on Facebook and said she tried to keep this private but since I won't listen she's exposing him publicly. I only found out because a mutual friend screenshot and sent this to me. She posted his past convictions that i didn't know about. She was apparently his wife who he never told me he was married to but according to her that got the marriage annulled after 4 months. He was convicted of sexual domestic violence charges involving a gun in 2007 and in 2015 was convicted for pulling a gun on a minor! When I confronted my husband he said the DV charges were his ex lying on him and the gun charge he was drunk and his ex's girl who was 15 was horrible and being a Smart mouth and he knows he shouldn't have done it. This also means my husband is not legally ALLOWED to own a gun and why he's always getting them at gun shows. We have like 15 guns and he isn't legally allowed to have a gun! The ex wife also claimed he's a pedophile but my husband completely denied that. I was upset he lied to me and said we can attempt to work it out for the kids. But now my husband has been fired from his job because another girl who he used to date exposed him publicly and sent this video to both me and his job and it disturbed me. The video my husband was about 24ish and there was a clearly underage boy. Maybe he was 15 and that's pushing it. The ex texted that my husband had supplied a minor with drugs and in this video the kid is clearly high and naked except for boxers and my husband had this child give a loaded a gun a blow job and told him to pretend it was a dick. I am disturbed. My family has now seen this video and my own brothers unfriended my husband. His job fired him and he told me he has nothing left and if I leave him he will kill himself. I don't want to be responsible for my husband taking his life but with all the lied and this super disturbing shit and my family is against him ... I don't think our marriage can survive. He's begging for marriage counseling but how can I ever see my husband the same way again. I told him he needs to get rid of these guns because he's not legally allowed to own one and he doesn't want to. How do we come back from this. I don't think I can. Other ex's have messaged me about SA allegations. I'm broken ladies. I'm broken.
Edit: Even if he never reoffended again I can never unsee that video. I'm not sure if he was on drugs too or just decided to get a minor high for sick reasons but I have several family members who have or have had addiction issues and they would never even think about doing what he did. How can I unsee my husband with an underage boy making him suck on a loaded gun and calling it a dick. Not to mention he's not willing to get rid of the guns he illegally owns. I want to think that it's been a long time but the video it's self is something I can't unsee and all I see when I look at him
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