So, we got out of hospital after spending a week in there. Half the week my husband was allowed to stay, the other half I was alone. Maternal mental health team was also involved (purely down to my lack of self esteem and struggle to accept my body)

We got discharged from hospital. I was hormonal, emotional, in a lot of pain as I was recovering from external factors as well as the c-section and mental health things (hence the 1 week stay)

I also have a child from a previous relationship with autism. I tried to make it so visits from family were when my child was at school so once they were home they weren’t coming home to visitors, just while adapting to new sibling and new life.

Anyhow, I invited my partners mother over because me and her get on well, she’s been through similar. Always been supportive and understanding. I still lived at my mother’s.

SIL HIT the roof because she wasn’t invited in the original plans. Made it all about herself. When my MIL was invited SIL was at work. She wanted to organise it when she wasn’t at work but I told her I couldn’t do when she was free as I had mental health team and midwife in the same day. She said I done it on purpose and haven’t thought about her enough since coming out of hospital.

When we did eventually see her in a time we were all free (she expects us to just drop everything for her, didn’t take into consideration I also had a large family wanting to see baby and see me and how I was recovering)

She held our baby, clicked her fingers at my husband, pointed to her phone and spoke to us like shit “TAKE MY PICTURE WITH *our baby*

She basicallly has hit the roof that since coming out of hospital we’ve had priorities that aren’t her, and we’re not always free when she is.

Sometimes my husband wants to spend time with family members alone and when he does this he gets wrong off SIL for not inviting her. She has the worst FOMO!