My ex-hudband and I share custody of our two year old. Everything I do is wrong. He doesn't want me going for a walk because then child traffickers can stalk us and figure out where we go. He wants me to drive a different way to work and daycare everyday to "throw off their scent". He doesn't want me to park outside my house, only in my garage. He wants no evidence of children at my house so I'm not allowed to have anything outdoors beyond my patio set. He wants my curtains drawn at all times so that people can't look in. He doesn't "allow" me to talk to my neighbours.

I told him this is exactly why we divorced. He is beyond controlling and will not see a doctor about his anxiety. This has controlled his life but he says "you're too carefree and acting stupid about this". He tells me to "shut up and stop arguing me on this". This is exactly why we divorced. His anxiety and controlling nature came out after we had our child unfortunately.

Case in point: my mom and I took my son to the lake today and I sent my ex some pictures. He lost it and was blowing up at me about how stupid I was being. I was like "It's a clean lake and we weren't even swimming". He said there's duck and goose poop on the grass and we're 25 feet from wildlife. He claimed we were "harassing wildlife" and I was like... It's a lake. We were not chasing wildlife around. The ducks and geese are always around and they move towards you if you're still. We went to the lake to have a picnic and sit in the shade to watch the ducks and geese. We weren't feeding them. We were literally sitting at a picnic table.

He said "You are never to do that again. Anyone could see you and follow you home. Anyone could airtag your car. You're being stupid again. Stop pushing things."

He has our son one every other weekend and he doesn't do a thing with him outside. He has a beautiful playroom set up for him but doesn't do playgroup or anything. He doesn't want our son in the public eye at all. He tells me constantly to stop using social media. I don't post anything about my son on social media and he has no pictures online.

I'm working towards full custody because of everything but it's so hard. He's unfortunately making a crapload of money and very prominent in his community. He's well known for being "very private". That said, we're nobodies. People don't actually know who we are.

I'm just sick of this shit. I cannot force him to get help for his anxiety but it's awful. He refused to acknowledge that his anxiety is a problem and instead me taking our son with my mom to the lake is a problem. Me going for a walk to the park is a problem.