My husband and I are 2 months in a separation. We were in couples counseling for 6 years, I asked often intermittently for affection, compliments, intimacy, etc he refused so I called for a separation

2 weeks 6 days ago I learned he was having an emotional affair for 11 months. He made a fake fb account to talk to her which had a number I didn’t recognize attached to the account I asked who’s number cos it’s a Verizon phone number he said a coworker said he could use it he said she’s just a friend it meant nothing he went about it all the wrong way

Today he unblocked this girl. He said he looks at me and sees me as and has seen me this way for 16 years as someone who doesn’t care about him or love him. Are you kidding? 16 years of planning things for you, always making your birthday special, mother of our children, always wanting him to cuddle me and stuff and more really? He said it’s so easy for me to move on I am crushed

Would you stay with someone who feels you don’t love or care about them????

He said he’s a stayer that’s why he never left me……

Please leave advice in comments 🥹