So I've been chatting with a guy who I used to work with. Not a direct colleague but someone in the company I worked at that I would sometimes have to consult on a case I worked on. We would often chat a little while he was looking into it for me.

If I'd consider having a job back at the company I'd probably be interested in this guy's department, because of the versatility and the genuine interest I have in the job. But I really landed a fantastic job with amazing pay amazing hours amazing benefits, so I'm not going back.

I posted about this earlier because when I just left the company, he was telling me about a job offer in his team, I'd actually be his direct colleague in a different shift and he offered to tutor me.. (outside of hours) it made me feel like he had a different motive and wanted to spend time with me.

I posted about this and the idea of the responses was that I was reading into it too much and he's just looking for a suitable colleague he gets along with.

Moving on to now.. I seperated from my ex about 6 months ago and I'm actually open to dating, we're still chatting but not looking into it too much because we're just being cordial with the occasional banter. Now this guy had no plans for his birthday and told me he didn't know what to do.. I told him he could go to dinner or something.. and he asked me where to go.. but we're not communicating in English (we're not in US or GB) and his response was basically between a "can you recommend me something" and "where would you like to go" like an indirect invitation. I danced around that because when I posted about this earlier I was told I read into this too much and I don't want to be that pretentious 🤣

Now we've been chatting quite frequently (It's been a few weeks since his birthday) and he actually invited himself over to my place for steak.. and now I'm kinda lost because I did ask him if he was serious and he said why wouldn't I be.. and then went on about well it used to be your cases and now it's steak, not much different.. so that felt like he's definitely downplaying and now I don't know what to think.

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For my previous job, I would surround myself with people of various teams who enjoyed working with me because that was best for my cases, I felt some of the guys might have had a (slight) crush on me and that's why they went above their measures to assist on my cases, but it does feel weird to write this out for people to read.. But it has come out for a few that they actually did. Nobody would make a move obviously because my then long time boyfriend also worked at my company. But we also met through my cases so maybe these guys thought that was the way into my heart or something 🤣 I don't know..

I am nothing special though, idk why these guys were into me at all..

@Mommaof4

We don't work together anymore.

I just thought we were being friendly, chatty, friends? Our relationship didn't change when I seperated from my ex which is why it's confusing, was he interested before? or are we still just friends meeting up? or does it not matter?