No More Vanilla, Pleaseeee!

I love my husband. But, I’ve mentioned lots of times now on what I want in the bedroom. I hate the plain vanilla sex and I just can’t ever get in it that way. My husband is the type to want to have “emotional intimacy”, but it’s not something I crave sexually, if that makes sense. I love the rough sex and I’m a little into BDSM. My husband tried one night to get a little rougher (not like how I wanted, but baby steps) and I was proud of him for trying to do that for me. I feel like he really enjoyed it because after we were done, he said “I think that was the best sex we’ve ever had since being together.” (We’ve been married for 9 years.)

I laughed and agreed. I secretly had hoped this would happen a lot more times now since he seemed to enjoy it. But we are kind of getting back into just the plain sex again and I don’t know what to do. 🙃