When do you know it’s time to move on…

Raven • ✨🌙💜🌙✨

My fiancé and I have an 1 year old daughter together. We’ve been engaged for a year now and I have completely given up the idea of marriage with him. There would be days when I just want to leave and have my peace of mind back. Especially, when he was gone to work overseas for 6 months. I want to give my daughter a two parent home. However, I’m so drained and mentally exhausted that I can’t focus on myself nor give my daughter 100% of me. Now, all I can think about is just living with my daughter in peace.

My question is. When did you know it was time to move on? I feel like I am ready, but scared to make the decision.

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J

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It sounds like it’s time to move on and you know it. I don’t think you need anyone to tell you. I think you just have to work up the courage to do it. Your daughter deserves two happy, healthy, stable parents, she doesn’t need you to be together

Ra

Raven • Aug 16, 2024
Absolutely she needs healthy and stable parents. Thank you. It’s definitely the courage I need to work up the most.

Mo

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Some couples bicker more with a baby. Are the 2 of you bickering more and need conflict resolution skills? Or do you actually have bigger relationship issues eg trust, partnership, the way he treats you etc and hes not willing to resolve? If it's the latter, it may be best to move on. Your child growing up with you separated is better than always fighting over major issues.

Ra

Raven • Aug 16, 2024
That’s true. I’ve tried talking it out with him, but it keeps resulting into guilt trip because he would mention that he missed six months of her life and he’d be better. However, it’s the latter which he talks down and how he interacts with our daughter. He says he’s trying to change but it’s only getting worst because he doesn’t feel like being a good guy anymore.

Ja

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Did he have to work away for 6 months? That’s hardly ideal in your baby’s first year of life. Does he parent and help and bond with baby?

Ra

Raven • Aug 16, 2024
He had no other choice but to work overseas due to his job requirements. It isn’t ideal, but things happens. He tries to bond with her the best way he can, but he doesn’t know how to parent. Even when I asked to take parenting classes with me. He just says no every time. We do have other relationships issues that stems from he is always right and I don’t know anything.

Ja

Ja • Aug 16, 2024
Has returned for good from working? Why can’t you be a two parent home? Simply swapping him for another partner doesn’t sound like a good idea either. Are there other relationship issues at play here?

Ra

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@GlowGPT please help me with this topic!

Gl

GlowGPT • Aug 16, 2024
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