I have finally been ready to start dating after escaping an abusive relationship a year ago. I've met a few guy online and I stopped talking to all of them after I started going on a date with this one guy because I really like him. He is really kind.

He's very shy though and more of a listener than a talker. He does enjoy talking about birds because he has an obsession with boys. His dating profile said he was looking for a relationship and someone who doesn't want kids or is open to adoptive children. I've always said I never wanted to birth to a child. I want to foster and possibly adopt one day. We've had a good time and I have tried to have sex with him. We've known each other a month and I thought he was just being a gentleman.

I tried to do it with him last night and he said he really likes me and he wanted to wait to talk about this and he understands if I don't want to date him and he's happy that I made him happy even for a short time. He told me he does not have a penis. He's a victim of gentile mutilation. It happened when he was 13 and his own parents did it. He did tell me his parents were in prison when we started seeing each other. I was told they were addicts and went to prison for severe child abuse. But never went into detail until now. It's really sad because he said he almost died. I asked if I could see. He seemed extremely uncomfortable so of course I said he didn't have to but he said he would show me. When I saw I just "Oh my." He was clearly mutilated.

I did ask has he had ever done anything sexual with a woman like foreplay and he said no. This is his first time trying to date. He told me he understands if we can't be together and thanked me for being amazing to him. I've been thinking about it and I do really like him.

I feel we could work around it. I was just looking for opinions and advice.