Hello Mommas! I need some advice because I am feeling like I know the answer, I just need some positive energy and/or stories to validate my feelings. Its so hard being a single mom!

I have been a single mom since my daughter was around 10 months, and I started the divorce process around February of 2023. In April 2023, I randomly reconnected with a guy I had known since junior high, and we instantly connected. He had added me on Instagram and we started to DM. It was a bit fast, yet coming from an alcoholic husband who was verbally abusive, it was such a nice change for me. We instantly hit it off and from April 2024 until now, we have been a thing. He has met my daughter and my family, and he is an overall good guy, trustworthy, etc. I also have met his family and they treat my daughter like she is their own and I really really love his family.

YET, he is kind of broke and unmotivated and it is really starting to open my eyes that I may not want him as my future. I work full time, support my daughter and myself fully and have my own car, and apartment, and live with no help or benefits. I am very proud of myself and how far I have come. He still lives with his mom at 30 years old, which isn't a complete red flag but he shows no signs of wanting to leave. He owns his own car detailing business, yet doesn't legalize it so he technically doesn't pay taxes or have anything to show for his business. He also just doesn't care to save much or build his credit, and it scares me. He doesn't care about retirement or saving, etc. and as someone who is trying to be financially smart and have savings/retirement...it scares me.

He also lost his license due to some overdue tickets years before I met him, and to get it back is super easy...he just has to call and set up a time to come in and pay the fee and retake a driver's license, yet since I have met him he keeps saying he will...but he never does. Yet he will make his car super fancy with rims, etc. It bothers me because there are things you can do to better yourself and your situation, and he's not doing that.

He was staying with my in my place for a while, just naturally I kept inviting him over every night, yet financially speaking he couldn't split the bills with me. He helps me with my car when it needs a detail or some minor fixes, yet in reality he cannot do much financially for me and my daughter. I am not looking for a sugar daddy or anything, but someone who is an equal partner. I He has owned his business for two years now, yet couldn't support himself on his own if he wanted to, and it doesn't seem like he's making a great amount of $$ to be able to have a future.

I keep thinking that I do love him, and he really is so sweet and kind and loving...yet the future that I would have with him doesn't seem bright regarding the life I want and maybe future kids, etc. I am 26, so having more kids is something I want, buying a house, etc. and realistically, I don't see him being able to do those things with me at the rate that this is going. I met him over a year ago, and nothing has changed with him financially or really seeing him do things to better himself. I need to leave him right?!