How to communicate your feelings when you ask your partner for help & they don’t help you?

Al

Hi,

I’ve been dating/ seeing this guy a few months now. He said he can treat me right, he can make my life easier, etc. But it all just seems like a lie.

I say this bc I recently needed a little bit of financial assistance, so I asked him and he said no. He can’t do it now.

I guess I’m a little annoyed bc I feel like I’m putting in more, then I’m getting. I mainly travel to his town to see and spend time with him- in addition to paying for my sitter od my child when I go to visit him. He has yet to come to my town. He said he will but haven’t made time to come or planned it.

Im just a little confused. He also asked me to move it with him- I said no bc I have a child and I’m not too sure if he is ready to take on that role yet of a parent.

So I’m not bashing his character or am mad at him & I don’t feel entitled to his money, however, I also don’t want to feel like I’m just an ego booster for his ego or feel like I can’t depend on him when he tells me we are in a safe space & I can…

I do overall enjoy being in his company & getting to know him, bc I think he’s a decent man… however, I’m constantly putting in more then I’m getting and that’s my frustration. If the roles were reversed and he asked me for financial assistance- I would try to help even if I didn’t have the total amount.

So should I communicate my feelings about this? Or should I just stop seeing him?

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