My boyfriend says I don’t love unconditionally. It started when we were speaking about male music Artists. I noticed that some artists would still be flooded with girls around them even though they are in a relationship. I told him I would never date an artist as I couldn’t handle that lifestyle. He said what if he became one and I responded if I wanted to date an artist I would’ve in the beginning. He got upset and said that I was being judgemental and I don’t love him for him but for what he does. We’ve been together since uni, and I never dated him for his career path. I tried to tell him I meant I preferred his qualities over dating an entertainer. But he said I was trying to save my ass. Last night we were speaking about Baby mama culture.

I told him I didn’t want to be a baby mama, I wanted to have kids when we’re married. He made another what-if scenario, asking what if he was ready for kids before we got married, I told him we’d have to prevent that from happening. Again he said I only love conditionally, that I should know we would get married anyway and I’m giving him ultimatums when I’ve caused him much pain during the relationship. (We had a rough patch due to my personal, and family issues).

Saying I should love him enough to have his kids at any time. I told him I wanted a family unit, the commitment and security marriage gives you. Again he said that he doesn’t like what I’ve been saying for the past days and my love seems to be conditional, not unconditional.

Please let me know if I’m wrong, I understand I shouldn’t have said what I said in the first story and it seemed as though I’d leave him right away if he wanted to be an artist, I didn’t mean it at all. But I don’t see anything wrong with wanting to be married before we had kids.