Bf 31 GF26 he’s waiting till marriage for sex. Together over a year

I’m his first girlfriend met through my friends 2-3 that I’m actually myself around. So it was easy to be myself around him and I liked his personality on our one on one first date, he got me flowers and I think he’s cute. He is a heavier guy, is a video gamer, loves shooting guns and jokes a lot(inappropriately at times). I moved in with him almost immediately after driving from work in a snow storm near his city and I slowly moved in from my apartment an hour away. I didn’t mind the drive and was doing it way before we even met.

The pros about him:

He actually likes to talk to me every day buy hearing my voice, if I’m there he brings me to his church every Sunday, He cooks meals for me and I him, will help me revise hw, he involves me in areas of his life like fishing, gun shooting, his social circle and I met his small family right away and him mine and his best friends entire family(over 20 ppl) plus their friends within 3 weeks of dating. (Was overwhelmed as he didn’t mention it was gonna be a lot of people)

The cons about him:

I slowly noticed His hygiene is pretty bad. He doesn’t brush his teeth everyday so I won’t kiss him until he does, leaves dishes everywhere and does not wash it right away, does not clean often like dust, wipe up messes, etc. I do it more often as I have season allergies so I need to breathe. When he plays video games he screams so loud you can hear it outside the townhome building as he gets pretty angry so I’m usually go in the room doing my stuff.

He downplayed the screaming in the beginning, it scares me most times..he also admitted he probably was a bit of an incel as he gave up on girls. He can be a little bit inconsiderate like walking feet ahead of me in public, ordering his food/drink first, telling me things very last minute like “get dressed we’re gonna eat food”. But, it’s not just me and him eating it’s his best friend and his girlfriend double dating with us, which is fine to do sometimes, but not every time or we pull up and it’s his best friends entire family at a party somewhere he just forget to mention to me.

I’m the only black/African person there so most times I can’t relate to their culture in this small city or what they say/talk about so I listen and talk a little bit. They are all in their late 30s and up with kids. I have only hung out with people my age or younger so it’s a HUGE adjustment for me to try to be friends with someone in a maturer and different area of life than me. I see them on average maybe 1 or more max a month. Some weekends a month I spend back in my old city with my family to make me feel less homesick as I am closer to my family more than he is his.

I’ve been on more double dates than with my own boyfriend and he doesn’t seem to mind.

I think he is starting to settle with me in the sense that he is too comfortable and not trying anymore lately. He still forgets to let me in on plans and just tags me along sometimes I feel. I don’t wanna begin to nag him like a mother would but we live together and I’m not use to living like this. I have been considering getting my own apartment for use both to “actually start going on dates again” to help improve us both to make time and consider making changes to make our relationship work better. We have said I love you to each other.

We haven’t been on a one on one date in a long time. I think that that will help to bring back the romance like in the beginning. I am also guilty for this as well as I have been busy in online school and working 2 jobs day and nights sometimes. We see each other every day but during those times he makes me rub his junk or give him head. We have strayed away from kissing as much as we used to in the beginning and he never gives me head he will touch me sometimes down there.