I’ll keep it short as possible but, my husband’s old friends were drama oriented and gaslighted me like crazy. I seriously call them the miserable bunch because they would cause some much stress and then act like they have too much on their plate to deal with it.

My husband’s old group of friends were either married or in a relationship. All the couples had issues of their own and then the girls had animosity between them. I came into my relationship and this group not aware of everything I learned eventually and it was coming into mine. So the one unmarried couple, the girl wanted to be open and the guy doesn’t. This girl apparently had her eye on my boyfriend at the time, I saw it after a couple of incidents especially after a big one. One birthday party, everyone was drinking, this girl got plastered like usual and was carried to their uber, my boyfriend and her boyfriend helps her to the car and she tried grabbing my boyfriend’s balls in-front her boyfriend. My boyfriend went in shocked and yelled for me and I came, told me what happened, I was fuming but I’m not gonna whooped a drunk girls ass. The couple was in denial. Then another party happens a year later, she gets drunk again and the other girls were comforting her cries and she end up professing her love for my boyfriend. Then I was yelling at her, of course the guys had hold us two girls back for each other. It was the last gathering we attended to. The other girls were being fake to my face saying that I should had beat her up and this girl is so annoying, then go behind our backs talking crap and said I’m immature in my relationship and a bully. I only found out because one girl was done coming around for her own reasons and told me in confidence, she admitted what she had said but did not see anything herself since she didn’t attend the gatherings for a couple of years. The whole hot mess caused a strain in my relationship and I made him choose me or them because I was done. We literally were fighting everyday for a year over this crap because I didn’t trust him and it didn’t make sense why she wanted him so bad, he chose me but he initially hesitated to take my side. It took a lot of work to be happy today. When another year had passed, I thought he wanted to see his friends again so I made amends. No apologies from them of course it was I misunderstood and they were trying to stay out of it. After few months they showed their true colors again. These two recent events made our final decision to be done and block them for good.

Today: The girl who wanted my husband, her name is Kate let’s say, she was turning 30 and wanted a party. One couple Frank & Sam stepped up to host a party at MY IN LAWS house (BIL is still friends with them but he’s the only single one, 40 y/o, no job,and still lives with his parents). Myself, MIL, SIL had planned a kids/family swim day, BIL said nothing to anyone and had to found out the night before, of course this pissed us off so we had to reschedule. MIL use to make bunch of food for these people over the years but she stopped since what had happened with my husband and I. I’m dumbfounded that we couldn’t come to in laws due to these people. My MIL ensured me this will be the last. Anyways, the birthday girl was ready to party along with her boyfriend Tyler, my BIL, and the other couple who set up the party…. NO ONE ELSE SHOWED UP. Imagine all that food and decorations and no one showed up. Yet I was a bully to the poor girl? Yet it’s ok for everyone else to not show up to the poor girls birthday party?? Hypocrites I suppose 🙃

A week ago, right before we officially cut them out of our lives, frank and Sam were planning a day trip to an amusement park for their kid’s birthday and was asking everyone for money (they make over 100K, they’re just cheap). My husband offered free admission and discounts to the destination so they were happy and said we should join and planned to all go as a family thing, then Sam started inviting other people and another girl who apparently couldn’t stand me. I only spoke to her once but ok. They got together and had made jackets for their kids for nighttime and did not include my kid. I told my husband what was going on and he said cancel on them and let them figure it out, I said we gotten Covid, then Sam had the audacity to ask if my husband can still come to get them in for free and he can go home after. I said no he’s sick. 🤷🏻‍♀️I heard they still went but they had to pay full price. Sorry not sorry.

Am I wrong to find joy out of these incidences? 🥴😅

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