Again if you enjoy reading other people’s messy family drama on the internet I got you. A summary of my original post. My mom is an alcohol she neglected my older sister and I as children because of it, but got sober when I was 5 and had years of long stretches. She was sober around the time I had my son and I let her take him no questions asked just trusting her sobriety. Which went well for 4 years. Around the time of his 5th birthday (November) I learned she had relapsed and that actually took place in July so she had been lying and put my son in danger several times. In December I found out I was pregnant and cut contact with my mom. I set very clear boundaries for what I needed from her at the time which was really just space, and for her to get sober. She crossed those boundaries every chance she got. I never told my mom I was pregnant though someone in my family did. Catching up to present day here. I had my daughter back in July. I posted a picture of her in the family group chat that includes my mom the day after her birth and again asked for space. I had a complicated pregnancy with lots of health issues and the delivery was mentally a lot for me. Everyone in the family including my mom was actually really respectful and no one messaged or called me. And occasional “hope everyone is doing well.” “I know you got a lot going on but do you remember how to make the frosting for so and so’s birthday cake” texts here and there. My daughter just turned 6 weeks old. As far as iv been told I’m still in daily contact with one of my sisters my mom has been sober since rehab back in February. So Monday Labor Day my mom texted me asking if she could please come over and meet the baby. I still really didn’t want to see my mother but trying to be the bigger person I said yes. Figured this would put us on the path to move forward. On Tuesday there was some drama because all of a sudden my mom wanted to bring my other sister and my grandma and all these extra ppl. I cut ties with a big chunk of my family right at the end of my pregnancy because they really turned into a me or my mom situation and there was no need for sides so I excused myself from the situation. I told my mom she could come alone or not come at all. I appreciate everyone giving me the space I asked me but my mom was the only one to reach out and ask to see the baby, I didn’t feel I had to make up with everyone in a day. Whenever anyone else is ready they can also reach out to me and we can go from there. So Wednesday my mom does show up alone. It’s nice enough, definitely awkward, my son was so excited to see her it’s been almost a year and she’s like his best friend. Cool, she texts me something on Thursday that made no sense so I didn’t respond, nothing on Friday and nothing Saturday. Saturday my mom and the sister I’m still in contact with had dinner plans for my mom’s birthday. A lot of family was going I wasn’t invited. My mom called my sister at 5pm, when the dinner was to take place at 6pm to tell her she had been drinking this past week and was waiting on a friend to pick her up and take her to rehab. Now my mom doesn’t just go to rehab, she waits to about 6 feet under rock bottom before she’ll even let you drag her in the building kicking and screaming. So my sister and I feel she’s been drinking for a lot longer than a week but no one in the family will admit anything. The only timeline we have is from my mom herself which is last Saturday Labor Day weekend she went to a casino with a friend who happens to be a guy. Go back to part 1 to see that most of relapses are due to boys and break ups, this woman is almost 60 it’s embarrassing at this point. Anyway they went out till 6 in the morning because a recovery alcoholic who lives paycheck to paycheck should totally be at a casino all hours of the night. But that is when she started drinking again according to my mom. So she drank Saturday/Sundayish, then texted me Monday inviting herself to my house, and then showed up on Wednesday knowing she had been drinking knowing I haven’t had solid communication with her since last November because I don’t want her drinking around my kid. Kids now. Like she missed my entire pregnancy because I did not want her drinking and drama to have any place in my children’s lives. And the audacity to show up to my house, hold my newborn and lie to my face. I swear I may never actually talk to my mother after this. I don’t even feel anger at this point. Just done, just over it. Like how fucked up do you have to be to do that to your own kid.