Two weeks ago I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant and I told my close friends and family. I started out so scared but I quickly became excited. I have wanted to be a mom my whole life -- my answer to what I wanted to be when I grew up was always a teacher and a mom. I told my parents in person and my older sister (age 33) lives with them. My parents congratulated me, and the first words out of my sister's mouth were, "how are you going to afford a baby?" My mom was quick to shut her down. My sister left the room and puttered around elsewhere. I brought up that I reached out to a friend of mine who has kids for some advice and my sister butted in again, this time to chastise me for telling people so soon.

Fast forward a few days and I've taken more pregnancy tests, these ones showing negative. I texted my family letting them know. I heard back from my parents and my brother and SIL with lots of support, but my sister said nothing (my other brother also didn't respond, but he has his own issues going on). Once I passed my pregnancy tissue and realized it was a miscarriage, I let my mom know but decided not to drag the whole experience out with everyone else.

My sister and I have always been friends. We had an apartment together for a while. Over the last 3 years she has grown distant, but I figured that adult sisters just aren't as close. Her lack of support at every stage in my journey has been heartbreaking. I don't understand why she's been unsupportive and absent. I haven't talked to her since I sent out the negative tests 10 days ago and she hasn't said anything either.

I just wanted to get this all off my chest because my partner has only ever known my sister as being anywhere from distant to standoffish with me, he didn't know us when we were best friends. To him, this is not surprising, but every instance where she does something thoughtless or cruel hurts me all over again and I don't think that this is something our relationship/sisterhood can overcome.