We have been separated all summer, he initiated it because of my anger issues and stating that I’ve changed since we got married. He misses the old me from 2021. We agreed to separated not knowing it would be all summer, his hope was we could be back together by August. All of our issues started to occur when I was going through major career changes and struggled with getting job offers since the transition, being fired from my high paying job that supported our lifestyle, and putting financial stress on us. We haven’t seen each other for two months, but talk everyday except this time around, where we are now no contact due to him being angry. What caused this was we were suppose to spend time last weekend together, but I drove three hours and booked a hotel by myself and haven’t heard from him all day until 8pm, which made me feel ignored because we always check in even while separated, made me feel like he didn’t care about my safety and I asked people who care about me if that’s wrong and they all agreed it was a bit weird, he’s still my husband he should’ve at least sent a quick text asking if I arrived safely. His explanation over the phone was that he wasn’t that busy, but he was later on, didn’t make sense to me at all.

He said I need to stop with the hostility and I think it was my delivery on how I said it, he said I keep making the same mistakes and he’s tired of the constant attitude and problem seeking. Just read his text below. I get that my text may have come crossed as hostile, I expressed “How’s your mom’s birthday? I haven’t heard from you all day, that made me feel ignored and a bit hurt that you didn’t check in to see if I arrived okay” He replied right away, but didn’t call me at all to make plans to see each other the next day when we knew that was coming. So I called him, he blew up on me, yelled at me, said he’s going to give me the same attitude back. But that was just from my text. I didn’t yell or raise my voice at him at all, so I told him you’re being the one that’s hostile and verbally abusive by yelling at me

My question is, should I leave him alone for now? Does he want me to reach out? Im not sure what to even say, it just seems like we are estranged now 🥺

He hasn’t ever once asked for divorce, that I just work on myself. But I’m not sure what this text truly means. I understand he wants me to make some changes, but he has to be willing to change with me. He mention he misses me and wanted to see me last weekend, that doesn’t come across as someone wanting divorce.