Am I an awful person?

Me and my SO decided to cut SIL off for many reasons. Shes being an absolute ass to me and my SO. She is the only person to make a scene that I didn’t want visitors right away. I had a rough birth and hospital experience. We’ve cut her off for many reasons, her doing. She used us for financial gain. Talks to us like shit. Patronises. Lies.

Anyhow. MIL said it’s a shame because she was so excited to be an aunt (SIL is always put above. In the eyes of My MIL she deserves forgiveness always. She can do no wrong. She gets away with everything. Excuse after excuse is made for her and that’s why her behaviour never improved. MIL always validates her)

Anyhow. I just responded with

She never cares about our feelings, she never cares about our boundaries. Therefore I do not care about her excitement.

I did not TTC with her excitement in mind

I did not put my body through hell with a high risk pregnancy for her excitement

I did not go through a c section for her excitement

I did not go through postpartum complications for her excitement

I did not carry a baby in my body for her excitement.

Don’t get me wrong, I like when family members are excited for us. The ones who we get along with. But please don’t try to make us feel guilty for her wrong doings because of her excitement? I didn’t do anything required to bring a baby into the world to benefit her.