A year ago I wanned a 3rd baby and my husband agreed because I had told my husband that i was going to get tubal ligation afterwards...he agreed...now the baby is 4 months and I have done my research and realised that the procedure will more than likely have bad side effects that will lower my quality of life. I told my husband this and he still wants me to go through. I have explained that its my health and that i will get the nexplanon wich seems to be a great form of contraceptive...he said i should feel bad because it was a compromise I made and that I tokd him so I could get my way...i love him and the family we have build but i think my health should matter more than that....I never tried to trap him.... i never did..i allways begged him rather than do anything deceiving.....i am afraid this will weaken my marriage.....( side note:he does not want to get him self fixed) should i just give in? Am I being selfish?