So. My husband and i used to have a wonderful sex life. Now he hardly ever wants to have sex or make love and says that i just have a higher sex drive than him. Thats fine but i have struggled with being rejected when i tried to initate so lately i have just been waiting until he does. . . . Well i am gonna say on average he initiates a quicky evry 4 to 6 weeks. So i tried to talk to him about it and saud that is just not enougb for me to feel connected to you and why can you jerk off all the time but not want to be intimate with me? I probably shouldnt have said that because he got defensive and said it is not always only once a month and he "counts" and then "gives me some" every once and a while so he doesnt have to keep dealing with me being upset about it. Well my feelings are really hurt it makes me feel gross that now i think about how many times did we have sex that he didnt even want to!? I dont like that at all. We havent had sex or talked about it since that conversation and now i.just dont.know. now i have anxiety about when the situation does come up (in weeks from now) and all i am gonna think about is do you even actually want to do this with me? Am i just over thinking this? Am i just being insecure and get over it?