Me and my husband both wanted to save ourselves for marriage. We are 18 and got married 5 months ago. My husband joined the military when he was 17. We planned to get married when he got married right after he got back from his advanced training but he was deployed shortly after. So we planned to marry when he got back. Ever went really badly because my husband suffered an assault while deployed. Legal action was taken and still ongoing. We still got married but he was dealing with trauma so we didn't do it yet. He would like to an all I can think is how I have my virginity and he now technology doesn't have his which is not his fault at all. This was just important to us. We have been together since we were 15 years old and we both waited. We had purity rings. This was important and now it's been stolen from us. Being each other's first was important and it makes me not want to have sex with him. I don't want to feel like this. Hes a great guy and I love him and want to be able to make love to him. I just don't know how to change my mind set.