Sooo this guy I am dating for almost 2 months now has been great. I’ve communicated to him things I am not comfortable with in our dynamic and he listens very well. Like the last time I told him I like getting a hug when we say goodbye after being together. It’s not something he is accustomed to doing but he does it because now he knows I like it.

But now, since we are both so busy and our schedules don’t align AT ALL. I work and study from 8am to 8pm while he works from 4pm to 3am. We all have our own personal lives outside of work so we really don’t have that much time to be together. On weekends, he does not have work but I have work on Saturdays. We see each other on Sunday when he does not have errands or events with family or when I don’t have a schedule to see my friends. So basically, us not seeing each other that often (once a week or once every 2 weeks) is very understandable from both our parts.

BUT now I feel like he does not make an effort to plan out when we can see again. I ask him sometimes if when can I maybe see him and he responds with “We will know 3 days before the weekend”. He claims we talk about when we are scheduled to see each other but I do not appreciate it that he does not initiate it himself. Should I just try to wait for him to initiate first before I tell him that he is not making any efforts on making a plan. Because I’d really appreciate it if he says a definite time instead of making open ended statements like we will know by the time it comes.