Hey. So I’m in a relationship and I love my boyfriend. I love his son. And I love what we can do together and what we have together. We seldomly fight. And the boy is usually well behaved.

BUT.

The boys mother…

I met my boyfriend at school and we clicked instantly but he got my attention the second time we were together and we started talking. March 29, 2024.

We hardly disagreed and it was all good until the ex girlfriend (baby mama) found out about me.

They have been broken up 3 years now in January 2025. But she’s not over it.

They broke up because she’s an addict and he tried to stick around for years for the kid and for her to get sober and get her shit together. It didn’t work out and she kicked him out mid winter (with the 6 y/o son). They had nothing and nowhere to go. But he made it work. Now he’s built his own place and is doing well. 6 months before I came into the picture they rekindled a bit but nothing went very far because she’s still addicted to substances and alcohol. She’s done some bad things and is famous for it on YouTube. And has been fighting jail time since July. Now postponed til January.

ANYWAY

SHE HATES ME.

She blamed me for their relationship not reconnecting and working. He says it’s not true, and it’s because of her addictions. I believe him. He once told me around midnight one night. She overdosed in front of the child and got narcan.

Backstory over:-for understanding of now.

Many times, including today. He’s been harassed by her about me. She uses the boy to bully me. She threatens his phone. She’s constantly attacking me with names such as, bitch, ugly,inbred,psychotic,crazy ass, weird etc. once she told him I texted her on Facebook and threatened her, he called me upset, but I was open about it completely and gave him my info to get in, where he saw I had blocked her month or so prior. I didn’t contact her or anything of the sort. (I’ve talked to her on phone with him 1x where she pryed for information and answers she didn’t need)

Today was no different. But she talked to his friend too and found out some personal stuff about me. It’s to the point where it’s driven a wedge between me and her son, and now between me and my boyfriend. I have never done her any wrong. Honestly knowing all this I feel like I just saved my boyfriend more drama if he would have continued with his relationship with her. I haven’t said anything about her bad enough to warrant this. And the only time I do snap is when she starts it and I get offended.

I’m from a small town. And beyond that it’s a township with less than 100 people. I’m country. I’m “weird”. But I’m a genuine person. I have feelings. And I’m tired of these ones. I don’t want to end my relationship because of her. 1 I love him and his son, but 2 she can’t win. But I’m also afraid to talk to him about it. We did a bit today and I felt like it got thrown at me because I’m sick of it. It’s been 5 months of it. 6 of us together, 1.5 officially dating.

How do I approach the topic. Seeing him being ok always hurts because honestly I’m drained. I don’t feel turned on ever anymore. I’m tired. I want to cry and scream at her too. The insults and threats are childish. I want it to be me and him in the world but it’s me and him against the evil in this world. She’s the evil.

I understand she’s got to be in his life because of the boy. I have never stepped in between that. Although she accuses that also.

I don’t want recommendations to leave the relationship.I want to rant and hear what other people solved this shit with.

I do know I didn’t do anything wrong. And neither has he. Or his son. He’s a child and doesn’t understand. And my boyfriend was single when we met.