I love and trust my partner of 2 years but they used tend to exaggerate stories to other people outside of me, stories that are true but a weird detail is added in. It used to bother me but we talked through it and concluded that my partner tends to exaggerate stories because they like making people laugh but feared they themselves weren’t funny enough. It is what it is and we haven’t run into that issue for a long time. They took full accountability. Recently, we got engaged and they started online graduate school…or so they’re telling me. We work weird hours. I work during the weekdays, sunlight hours and they work on the weekends overnight. So I don’t see them as much. So a lil background first. My partner graduated with an environmental science degree, bachelors that they got a couple of years prior. I’ve never seen this degree and they don’t use it for jobs as we live in a city where that type of industry kind of died out (it’s so hard to get a good job where we’re at) I’ve NEVER been to college. I don’t know what it’s like. My fiancée decided to go back to graduate school online, hence why they work overnights. This is where things get weird…

When they announced that they were going back to graduate school, they said that they were trying to get their masters in Biomedical Engineering. I questioned them and said, “Wait, I thought you studied environmental science? Do they come hand in hand, I’m confused?” They said that they minored in environmental science but their major was biology. Ok… maybe I remembered wrong but I have FANTASTIC memory. So I asked them, “Ok, so can you go from a biology degree to something much more specific after you’ve graduated?” I was being genuine in my curiosity because I was raised somewhere where college is not important. You went to work at the local factories, worked your way up, or went into the military. That’s it. When I come home from work, I’ll ask them how class was, then they voice about how difficult it is to do schoolwork on their phone. They talked about all of these different papers that they have to write…but never about the subject?? And I never see them writing on their phone?? One day I came home during lunch on my break and my partner was sleeping. I didn’t wake them, they didn’t even know I came home. I thought they had class that day but maybe they were on a break. So later I asked them how class was just in case I had caught them at a bad time. My partner goes, “Ugh, long, I was writing papers all day from 8 am to 3 pm.” Side note, because I know that there will be questions about this, I know for a fact that my partner is not cheating on me. I have access to all of their social medias and their phone at all times. They keep their location on at all time, things that I haven’t requested but they do it anyways. They show me who they talk to so I’m not worried about that. The other day they were talking about a paper they were writing and I asked if I could read it (it was on a subject that I really like) My partner said, “Oh it’s already erased because I sent it.” I have a weird gut feeling that there’s something not right here tho. Or maybe I’m not asking the right questions? Maybe I’m being stupid or paranoid? Or maybe because I’ve never gone to college, I don’t know but it feels weird. Advice?

I love this person with all my heart, but I won’t stick around with them if they’re lying for the sake of doing so. I don’t know why they would lie, I don’t care if they lived in a box or had a mansion, we treat each other really well and they are my best friend. If they really are in college, I’m super proud of them for going back, so it’s not a jealousy issue.

Weird side note:

I also asked them how they were doing everything on their phone with papers and they said that they were doing voice to text…which I kinda doubt??? Also, I haven’t seen note books, text books, classroom supplies, etc.