We’ve been together for 3 years (we’re both 21). We started off our relationship having sex but now he wants to stop. I respect that and I respect his decision so we’ve stopped for the past year. However, I feel like a lot of unhealed parts of me are starting to show & it’s hurting our relationship & causing me to build inner resentment.

I got SA’d as a kid so i’ve always struggled with feeling rejected and feeling like my body is not within my control. Us not having sex brings up these past unhealed feelings, I feel like it’s not fair that I didn’t get to chose to be celibate.

BUT at the same time i feel like it’s helping me heal because no one is looking at me in a sexual way & that makes me feel so safe.

Anyways.. I don’t know what to do. I love him and I would love for our relationship to work.

what do i do.. do i stay? am i a bad person for leaving just because he doesn’t want sex?