Ive discussed with my husband that I no longer feel sexual attraction in our marriage, and I struggle with it because he refuses to discuss anything deep or serious. I feel like he stonewalls me by simply not responding, shutting down verbally, or changing the subject completely. Not only that, but acting as though everything is fine afterwards and never initiating a serious discussion himself. The thing is, he will say he understands me, or that he’s sorry when I bring my feelings up..but that’s the extent of it. I try to be non-accusatory and calm when I express how feel too, but it’s like a wash/rinse/repeat. We come back around to the same thing. I gave into sex recently because I felt bad about avoiding it for so long (which can be several weeks), but it was awful. I just stared off as he got off. I didn’t orgasm at all, and he barely helped me clean up afterwards. It’s just nice when your partner gives you the same level of attention as when they did during sex, but he literally just comes back around with wads of toilet paper. That and I’m literally burning down there from the lack of being ready when we had sex. The sex is so bad, and it hasn’t helped any of our issues. He’ll then pretend like nothing was wrong with the sex, despite everything. We’re about to go into counseling. Is this a fair reason to leave? I’m burnt out on trying.