I’m not local to my mom but a few hours drive. My sister lives 20 minutes away(she has a 4 week old) and my brother at home with my mom. My brother is helping care for my mom but isn’t really capable of cooking more than chicken nuggets or cleaning. My mom had her 2nd chemo treatment this week. She’s got a cureable form of cancer 90% with 12 treatments.

While at a wedding recently my husband told one of his friends we’d be back Halloween weekend. My sister asked if we’d be back this weekend so I said yes. She told me that she thinks my moms nervous about her 2nd treatment and that my brothers going away this weekend so she’ll be alone. I told her I could probably stay with her and that I felt bad my mom wasn’t feeling great. No response from my sister.

My husband gets home from work tonight and basically is like “sadly we won’t be going home this weekend because I’ve got a ton of work to do” we’re also skipping my husband’s grandmas birthday party. My husband feels my brother needs to step up more and would 100% want him to skip the weekend away to care for my mom. My mom hasn’t said anything to me about him going away and her needing me. All she’s said was “did your sister talk to you” when I ask about what she says “oh (husband) is going back to work and she might need your help for a week or two”. She’s the type to not ask me for help yet not tell him he can’t go.

I know logical thing is I just go but it’s not possible. I’m having a nervous breakdown over this because I feel bad she’s going to be alone and I want to be there for her but we’re now not coming home. I also feel like I’m putting my husband in a position he can’t say no if I say I need to go help my mom for the weekend. I have a slight stuffy nose and my moms doctor is very “do not get sick” so I could mention it a reason I can’t come?