Toxic parent

Hi everyone,

I’m currently living with my parents. For context, i’m indian and my dad is an alcoholic. Always has been. When he’s sober he’s great. But when hes drinking he’s incredibly verbally abusive towards my mom. She has lived this life since she was in her late 20s, she’s now in her late 50s. I’ve encouraged her to leave so many times but perhaps it’s a cultural thing but she cant. I love my mom so much and she deserves so much more. Anyways my mental health is obviously affected. When i defend my mom in their arguments, my dad then verbally attacks me calling me a bitch, a sl*t, etc.

Years ago I bought a condo that i was renting out but i made the decision to stop being a landlord and to move in early next year. A part of me is so excited to have my own space thats free of any toxicity, no screaming, no darkness. But a part of me worries that my mom wont have me there as someone to lean on.

My condo is a 15 minute drive away from home so that will help a lot if she ever needs a break from my dad but i’m feeling so much guilt about this…