How to deal with a breakup neither of you want

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Me and my bf decided it could be best for us to break up to work on individual things and heal from our pasts. We just sobbed into each other as we tried to figure things out, it just hurts so much more because we have a great relationship but we know this is probably what’s best. It doesn’t even feel real to me and I don’t know how to process losing my best friend and the love of my life. I know that we can’t be as close anymore and it hurts my heart, even though we agreed that if we really need each other that the other will show up anytime.

Do you guys have any advice on how to move forward from this because I am just feeling lost right now. I know whatever is meant for me will find me but the thought of losing him scares me and breaks me at the same time. I’m scared of becoming mopey and not leaving the house as it’s hard for me to not shut down and distance from everyone when things go wrong.

Which is just proving the point that this is what needed to happen more 🙃 im really hoping we can both work through our things and find our way back together so we can be stronger but im scared of holding onto that hope too much.

Any advice on how to deal with a breakup when you still love each other would be appreciated or any advice at all