Hi all! So I’ve recently got into this relationship. October 10. BUT I’m seeing a few red flags(maybe I’m just over thinking it) anyway LETS START.

Ok so when we were first talking he kept calling his girlfriend and I told him you can’t claim me till YOU make it official. Like ask me out on a date. Etc. before we started dating this man starting saying “I love you” and I was like wait?? I like you but I’m not there yet. (We started talking in August so 🚩number 1) 2 months go by and he asked me out. (Yes it was cute and romantic) so I said yes. Now, he has 2 kids MIND YOU. I got 1. He hasn’t asked to see either of his kids. (second mom they’re doing custody work so idk what’s going on really) BUT I was being nosy and looked and some of the paper work. And there IS 3 count them 3 children on the paper work. (🚩number 2) AND when I asked, he said he doesn’t know that the court messed up the paper work BUT AS I RECALL. (His 2 bm texted me once and called herself the 3rd BM) HMMMM. Lowkey wanna text back and ask what she means. Anyway. He says he doesn’t have a third kid but I’m struggling to believe that courts would mess that up? LASTLY (🚩 number 3) it’s only been a month into dating and this man basically moved himself into my apartment, like buddy I enjoy your company but you’re not homeless?? And I’m almost to a point of telling him he NEEDS to go home this man is M.E.S.S.Y. Like leaves a mess everywhere he goes. (Plus he snores WAY too loud) he’s already talking about moving in together once my lease is up in April BUT I AM NOT READY. He is not considerate when it comes to being quiet in the mornings, buying food if he’s ate it all or even try to replace it. Wakes up in the morning and takes over the tv KNOWING my daughter wants to watch cartoons. He also DRINKS WAY too much like every weekend (sometimes he literally HAS to get drunk) and it gives me THE ICK. idk yall I kinda want to end it before I was anymore of my time. But he told me one time (while drunk) that if I leave he would definitely end himself bringing back trauma from my kids dad almost doing it but then he said jk? Like that’s not a joke I AM TRAUMATIZED.