I’m really needing some advice please

I’ve posted on here recently so you may recognize some similarities in this post.

To start off, my mom and I don’t have a relationship at the moment. she didn’t raise me and she’s still not around . I haven’t seen her in almost a year and it hurts so much. My husband has made it clear that he doesn’t like her but also when we get into arguments he’ll weaponize what I’ve told him about her. Things that hurt. He’ll begin comparing me to her and saying I’m gonna turn out just like her. But he’s way more detailed about it and mean.

The other day I told him that it hurts that I don’t have him for support when I just need someone and that I cry often because of what I go through with my mom. And his response was “how often do you cry?” & I when I told him pretty often he responded with “well I’m just thinking about how much time you waste moping around” he later apologized for saying this but he’s like this often.. & then apologizes. So the apology doesn’t mean much anymore.

I can’t lean on him for support, I can’t be vulnerable with him, I cant confide in him, and recently he implied that he doesn’t support my career goals. He doesn’t want me to work. He’s traditional Mexican and wants me to continue staying at home even though our kids will be in school. I don’t know where to go from here. I’m so confused. I feel defeated.

ETA - Thank you for the advice. I want to add that he is 110% against therapy. I have asked about it and suggested it countless times.