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It's still fresh, give him time. It sounds like you are more ready/willing than him and thats not an easy thing on his part. At least acknowledge and validate his feelings even if youre ready to rise to the occasion.
Husband Not On Board
My husband and I have been married for 13 years. He just turned 40 and I’m 36. We have a 7yo son and a 4yo daughter. Just found out, on Thanksgiving, that I’m pregnant with baby #3. He is NOT happy. His anxiety is through the roof and he’s being very negative. I’m of the mindset that this will be fun since it’s been so long since we had a baby, and we can figure out any obstacle that comes our way. He is definitely not in this camp with me.
I’m sure this is selfish but his negative attitude is making me very upset and honestly, sick to my stomach. I am more than capable of going through this journey alone, but I thought we were together in everything. We talked about a third throughout the years and we were neither for nor against it. I figure just let nature take its course and here we are.
Again, I’m sure I’m looking being a jerk about this, but I’m very over his attitude and I’m about to tell him to f*%# off. Maybe it’s just pregnancy hormones lol. Anyway, any tips on how to deal with him would be greatly appreciated. TIA 😘
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I mean…he’s 40. He knows how babies are made by this point. My partner is 29. He says he doesn’t want anymore kids but he doesn’t wear condoms and wont get a vasectomy. Says he’s not getting fixed. Something about genital mutilation. Yet he had our son circumcised 👀🤨I hope he’s able to come around for you with this pregnancy. Supportive loving partner.
My husband is 37 and I’m 36. We are expecting our 4th. It was a huge surprise. He was not excited at all, and still isn’t excited but he is very welcoming of everything. He has been the best shoulder to cry on. We just have a lot of changes coming in 2025 and a baby was not on the list. He will be there to support his family and roll with the punches. I think it’s easier knowing this time it’s a boy! Give him time to come around.
You're definitely not being a jerk, he is. Try to stay calm when you do decide to have a conversation. Even though you both had conversations about having another one I'm sure he thought it was just talk. Hopefully he has valid fears and not selfish ones. Try to be open and hear him out before responding, sometimes men need more time to process having another child. But once the baby is here all that will go away... Hopefully sooner than later. Hope this helps
I'm curious if your husband finally calmed down by now. My husband is also 40, and he's excited for our 3rd. Our last pregnancy run was 7 years ago. I somewhat joked & seriously mentioned about trying for another last year, and was shocked he is actually on board. I hope your husband finally got his marbles together. Praying for healthy pregnancies.
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