Deal breakers

My boyfriend and I welcomed our baby boy in August this year. We never really talked about having kids together but were well aware of what we were doing. When we found out I was pregnant I told him we didn’t have to keep the baby as we were in a tough spot.

He has multiple kids from other people & I came into our relationship with one. I’ve expressed how many children I wanted total since having our boy but he doesn’t want anymore at all. I’m kind of bummed because I came from a small family & I want to create a big one. Like his kids are my babies but they’re not MINE. I honestly don’t know if this is a deal breaker for me or if I should just suck it up. I feel like that should’ve been discussed before bringing a life into the world.

Edit**** I honestly didn’t see myself having anymore kids. YES I knew I wanted them but I didn’t think it was going to happen. My first traumatized me. Idk if it was the pregnancy, the relationship, or both. It’s different with him. Seeing the way he interacts with our kids, the way he reassures me, the way he makes me feel. I feel safe, I feel loved, I feel seen & heard. Maybe I worded everything wrong in this post. I have no intentions on leaving him because of that so maybe not a deal breaker but I was a little hurt by it. We have spoken on the subject since this post was made & wherever we go from there, it just is what it is. It’s completely in gods hands. & for the comment about him paying or being responsible for kids, yes he is, but he’ll never have to 100% on his own. I knew what I was signing up for when I met his kids. Those are OUR kids 😊