Broke something my husband cared about

Last night me and my husband had the worst fight we've had since him being upset that my first child I was pregnant with was a girl. 2 days ago I made a post about my son wanting to quit wrestling and was actually crying over not wanting to wrestle anymore and something was clearly wrong besides wrestling. My husband is living vicariously through him. That's exactly what he's doing. He hurt his shoulder in high school and had to quit wrestling so he wanted a son he could live vicariously through. That's why he was upset and disappointed when our first daughter who is 22 was a girl. It's why he was upset when our oldest son who is 18 was disabled and is wheelchair bound and it's why he's upset that our youngest who's 16 wanted to quit wrestling. He had asked to quit back freshman year. He wouldn't tell me what was wrong so yesterday when my husband went to work I kept him home so we could talk about it. By how he was acting this was more than wrestling and I said he can quit. I don't care what his dad said he can quit. Just tell me what's wrong. He told me he never really liked wrestling but he likes his teammates in middle school so he kept doing it to make my husband proud. Then when he got to high school his new coach has been weird and it started when they were alone and he told my son he wrestles awkwardly. That he needed to be more comfortable and he played an "Are you uncomfortable game with him where he just started touching his leg and told him to tell him when he's not comfortable and he would stop when he said he's not and each time they would work their way to to "help" him get more comfortable. That's why he wanted to quit the first time.

To make this less triggering things went too last year when they had to stay in a hotel for a competition and they've continued to go too far a few more times after that. First people I called was the police. Second was the school. Then my husband. We had to go to the police station to give a statement and he thought all he had to do was give a statement so they could arrest him . He got really upset when they had to do a physical exam. My daughter came over yesterday and is staying the week to be with my youngest son. My middle one won't be here until next week because his semester at college ends.

I'm not proud of what I did but my husband's reaction to things pisses me off. His first reaction was to ask him if he's sure he's not lying to get out wrestling which was fucked up. When we got home my daughter took my son to see Wicked because he was upset and embarrassed by the turn of events. Me and my husband were talking. I was crying. He said "At least we know wrestling isn't the problem. It was just the coach and the school is gonna have to replace him now anyway." I asked was he actually still thinking about wrestling and living through our child. He says he can't blame wrestling. It's had nothing do with that. The coach was just a creep and he takes the first trophy our son ever won and said that he's good and he can give up because of his coach and he can continue the legacy. I took the trophy from him and threw it. It his the wall and broke and my husband got really mad. So I didn't break something that belonged to my husband. I broke my son's trophy that I doubt he cares about. My husband cared about it more and he was furious with me because it looked just like the one.he had won in high school. We yelled at the top of our lungs at each other and I kicked him out of our bedroom for tonight. We haven't spoken at all this morning and I know he wants me to apologize for breaking something he cared about. I know it was wrong to throw things but I don't think I owe him any type of apology with how he's been acting.