Marriage Falling Apart

Been with my husband for 12 years we have 4 kids . Ever since we became parents we dont make time for us. We are an outgoing family. But everytime we go out is to fun places for the kids. I feel like husband doesn’t want to make time for US just him and i.

Well Tomorrow he is having a Christmas party at work. He asked me if i work tomorrow i said yes and he mentioned the Christmas party at work. Me thinking he was gona asked me to go. Well he is like okay because the Party at work is at 12 and i will be taking the kids with me . If im honest it hurt me , the fact he didn’t even asked if i wanted to go