Bad sex but good relationship?

So Ive dating my boyfriend for 10 months now, and honestly he is really lovely, he treats me really well and we have a lot in common. But since day 1 we have been having massive issues in the bedroom, I won’t go in to detail but the sex just isn’t enjoyable for me. I feel like I almost dread doing it with him and am always silently hoping that we won’t do it, afterwards I always just kind of feel a bit awkward and “meh”, as if it feels like a chore. And the worst thing is he wants it pretty much all the time (just to clarify he is never forceful), we have tried spicing things up and all of that but it’s still just…not great. I have spoken to a lot of friends about this and some have said it’s not a big deal but others have said it’s a deal breaker especially as we have tried pretty much everything and I still don’t enjoy it massively. So I wanted to know what’s your opinions on this?

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B

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You need to communicate better with him, the same as him. Sex takes work and practice. It can always be improved in time. You have to TELL him how you feel and what you want! It’ll get better

Ju

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Would you want to give up a good relationship over bad sex? I’d say communicate with him, ask him to take his time or maybe you take control more. But we all have dealbreakers, so if this is yours 🤷🏽‍♀️ do what you feel is necessary.

Ca

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Instead of speaking to all your friends speak to your partner. The two of you can fix it with some communication.