Tried having sex but it hurt too bad?

Question

I have never had sex before and my boyfriend and I tried for the first time. He made sure to ask me if I was ready and everything. I thought I was and I was wet and everything but it hurt so bad that he never fully got it in. Maybe just like an inch in, and it hurt really bad when he took it out. We were using a condom so I don’t know if that’s why. We didn’t use lube because the condom says it has lube on it. But even if we did I can’t see how that would help that much. Is it normal to hurt this bad? Do I have to just get it over with and do it with it hurting and then it won’t hurt next time?

Answer

It is entirely normal to experience discomfort or even pain during your first sexual encounter. However, there are several things you can do to make it more comfortable.
Sex shouldn’t be painful. Pain is often your body’s way of saying something needs to change, whether it’s about being more relaxed, using proper lubrication, or addressing anxiety or fear. Forcing it through pain can lead to more discomfort and even emotional distress.
Even if you’re naturally wet, or the condom has some lube on it, it often isn’t enough. Condoms with lubricant have just a small amount that dries out quickly. Use a high-quality, water-based or silicone-based lubricant to reduce friction and make penetration smoother. Your local pharmacy, supermarket, or favorite online store should have some.
If your boyfriend is only getting an inch in and it hurts, your body might be tensing up, either from nerves, anticipation of pain, or lack of full arousal. Spend extra time on foreplay to help your body relax and feel ready. Just feeling aroused and wet is not enough. Your body needs some more time to become fully aroused. It may help to get your first orgasm from fingers or oral. Penetration should never be rushed.
The muscles of your pelvic floor might be tight, especially if you’re nervous or your body isn’t used to penetration. It’s important to be patient. Starting with fingers, smaller toys, or shallow penetration can help your body adjust over time. It is also not a good idea for him to try and shove it all the way in at once. Start slow with only the slightest thrusting deeper every few times.
Some positions like missionary can put pressure on sensitive areas or angles that feel uncomfortable. Positions where you have more control, like being on top, might help because you can control the depth and pace.
If you’re feeling nervous or worried about the experience, your body might respond by tensing up. Emotional comfort and communication with your partner are key. Make sure you feel safe and that he’s understanding and patient.
Occasionally, pain during first-time penetration can be related to a medical issue, such as:
Vaginismus is a condition where the vaginal muscles involuntarily tighten, making penetration painful or difficult.
Some people have a thicker hymen that can make penetration harder.
If you’re very sensitive, even mild friction can feel painful.
If this pain continues, it’s a good idea to consult your doctor. They can check for any physical causes and reassure you about what’s happening with your body.
There’s no rush to “get it over with.” First experiences are a learning process, and it’s okay to stop and try again later when you feel more ready or prepared. Open communication with your boyfriend will help make this a more comfortable and positive experience.

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It’s normal for it to be uncomfortable because it’s something new you’ve never experienced before. For me even lubricated condoms have never really helped that much, I’d try using actual lube.

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The first time is usually painful until he penetrate and get completely in then the pain will subside that was how it was for me anyway even if you use lube or foreplay it’s natural to feel pain for us women

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You should try more foreplay and using lube

Tried having sex but it hurt too bad?

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