What do you think about the situation ?

So, on Christmas eve my bf dropped me off at my house and his mom calls me and starts accusing me of lying about me having a dentist appointment on Christmas eve (which I had a lot going on lately with my grandfather being in the hospital due to having a deadly infection and I had to push my appointment around a few times due to being at the hospital with him) all because it was “inconvenient” to her since her and my bf made plans to cook and go see his family for the holiday which I was supposed to go but shit happened, well, she kept on coming at me on the phone and starts calling me childish, selfish, a liar and apparently I ruined her Christmas because I didn’t go, well, the next day she ended up In the hospital because she said she had a “mini heart attack” and a “mini stroke” with “internal bleeding” but 24 hours later she was let out and they said it wasn’t major enough for her to be in there for a week (which my family and I and our friends think she did this on purpose to get my bfs full attention) but soon as she got out she texted me a rude message about me “lying” again about the same shit she accused me of the day before and she then proceeded to text me “A.I is pretty awesome isn’t it? You better tell him or I will” which I sent my bf proof that I was at my appointment and along with the bill that I had to pay but I didn’t understand what she meant in the text until she finally came out to my bf about it and said that I made a “fake photo” with my name on it which was the medical referral to a oral surgeon that my dentist gave me, she also started to say that she “caught” me in others lies too which idk wtf she was talking about there but the day after Christmas my bf came to my house to get his birthday and Christmas presents since I didn’t get to see him for Christmas and his mom calls him a few times to ask where he was and why was he here at my house and then proceeded to say that I’ve been “gaslighting her” which was a lie and then hangs up on him after she accused me of that too… I honestly don’t know what I did to her but she has became a scary person to be around, its starting to become more frequently then before and it’s horrific when she has her meltdowns. She also hasn’t apologized to me about what she did.

I have been ignoring her and muted her texts and calls until my bf and I can sit down and talk about boundaries and rules to put down with her, she has became more nosey, controlling, very jealous, insensitive, selfish, self- centered and she’s very possessive over my bf which has been a problem for years….. I love her like she is my own mom but it hurts me that she started whaling on me on the phone and accusing me of something that I’ve never did or said , I can’t help that my grandfather was in the hospital and we didn’t know if he was going to die or not and I had to keep pushing my appointment back a few times because i didn’t know what was going on with him at the time, it was kinda weird that she ended up in the hospital 24 hours after she accused me and then started the drama back up again after she got out💀

Apparently, she wants me to apologize and respect her more after she disrespected me in front of my family while I was on the phone.

Oh, I meant to also add in there that she called one of our family friends to complain about me and my friend told her that she needed to stop talking behind my back because I wasn’t there to defend myself and then his mom started cussing at her because she stood up for me and then proceeded to make some back handed remarks about me but the next day she calls my friend back to tell her “I’m in the hospital because I had a stroke, a heart attack and I have internal bleeding but idk how this happened” and my friend told her that it’s because she did it to herself since she caused a dramatic event and then tells her the next time she has another stroke then she might as well drop dead because you made a big scene for people to feel bad for you and that’s not right especially if your trying to pull a ole’ poor me card to get your sons full attention after what you just did to your sons girlfriend is just pure evil…. His mom hangs up the phone because she knew what she have done to me and she also knew she was wrong for it.

My bf isn’t happy about the situation that she has caused and he’s super embarrassed of how she’s been acting towards other people just because she’s “depressed “ or “sad” or “not feeling good” but I’ve learned that she’s becoming more psychotic with a lot more emotional outbursts out of the blue and I’ve kinda studied her behavior more and it seems like she has some sort of mental health issues like bipolar depression, personality disorders, maybe schizophrenia and some other weird problems that I can’t explain but she definitely does have the emotional incest going on too.

But idk what do you guys think?

If you have been through this please give me some advice!

Please and thank you!

Sorry for a long story but I need. Some help!

***Edited- Forgot to also mention that she is a widow, her husband (my bfs dad) died 15 years ago and her father passed away last year and ever since last year she would have these constant meltdowns and bitch fits over the smallest things and that wasn’t even a big deal until she made it out to be while throwing shit around the house, she constantly wanted my bfs attention and didn’t want him near me and then started to become a HUGE problem, when I also lost my grandmother before she lost her dad which was in 2023 she didn’t even say I’m sorry for your loss and she ignored me for weeks because my bf wanted to comfort me at the time and had to take off one day of work to say goodbye to my grandma before she left this earth, his mom was pissed that he wasn’t with her that day and it really hurt my feelings that she didn’t care at all about me losing my grandmother but the only thing she cared about was him being home with just her and the whole time I kept on hearing from her was “what about me?!? Do you not care about me?!?” It really pissed me off!!😡

When she lost her dad she called me to be there for her and help her out with her animals while she goes to Chicago to say goodbye to her dad but when it came to me she ignored me and treated me differently because my bf was there for me when I was grieving.

Sorry for it being all over the place, I just kept this to myself for the past few years and it’s really getting me.