Why does sex not feel good to me?

Question

Why have I never orgasmed or even came close to having an orgasm during sex? It’s like my husband’s dick doesn’t stimulate me at all. Any suggestions?

Answer

You have bumped into one of the great mysteries of female sexuality, and you know the answer already. You are not broken or defective, and it is not you or your partner’s fault.
You have two main organs in your vulva - the clitoris which is your main source of pleasure, and your vagina that serves a mainly reproductive role. 
Your vagina does not have a whole lot of nerve endings compared to your clitoris. This is to protect you from traumatic pain during child birth, menstruation, infections, and penetration. It serves as a safe place for your partner to ejaculate his sperm to make you pregnant, it is the birth canal for that baby, and it is the outlet for menstrual flow and discharge. The most sensitivity is around the opening and just inside the opening. These areas are sensitive to stroking. Deeper in your vagina is mostly pretty numb but sensitive to pressure, rather than stroking.
Your clitoris on the other hand is just the opposite. It has no function at all, except for sexual pleasure. It has around 10,000 nerve endings and is sensitive to stroking, pressure, and vibration. Think of it as his whole penis squeezed into that little tip (the glans). Now double the pleasure he can feel, and you have your clitoris. Your clitoris is the most sensitive organ anywhere on the human body. Not only that, but it also goes deep inside your body forming 2 wishbone structures, the bulbs and the legs. Today, researchers think the legs are what we previously thought to be the so-called g-spot. The bulbs are under your lips and contributes to the sensitivity of your vulva and vaginal opening.
About a fifth (20%) of all woman can orgasm from just penetrative sex. Research has shown that their clitorises are close to their vaginal entrance, so during intercourse, the penis glides over it and gives it enough stimulation to cause an orgasm.
So what can YOU do?
* Keep on rubbing your own clitoris during intercourse.
* Ask your partner to rub your clitoris during intercourse (doggy, spooning, or you on top is the easiest for this)
* Use a small clitoral vibrator during intercourse
* Use a couples vibrator
* Change how you move. With him fully inside you, tilt your pelvis so that your clitoris makes contact with his body, then grind, squeeze, and rub it on him. The in/out/up/down movement is not the only way to have sex. A position like you on top can help you. There you have full control over the action.
* Accept that you are not going to orgasm from intercourse alone. Enjoy it for the intimacy, but orgasm before and/or after from oral sex or fingering
Like the other 80% of woman, you can learn these techniques and have very fulfilling and joyful sex with your partner. These techniques may feel unnatural at first, but it will very quickly become natural and an automatic part of your sexual repertoire.

Answer

Well, I’m in the same boat lol. My husband has to finish me first orally before he starts or I have to rub my clit while he’s having sex with me. If it’s just the dick, I don’t get off lol. I could go without. I’m not sure why that is, but I don’t get off that way either.

Answer

How is the kissing, foreplay and intimacy? If you just jump in, of course it won't feel good. It's all about the build up, the making out, the mutual kissing of the body, the sexy talk, they grabbing of his hair, his back, his booty, that will get him more affectionate and turned on. Are you guys doing any of that?

Why does sex not feel good to me?

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