How do I tell my husband I want an ab*rtion?

Question

Please no judgement here. 
I’m 8 weeks pregnant and at first I was very excited for this baby, but this pregnancy has taken such a toll on me already. I feel like I cannot be a good mother to my 2 children because I’m always very nauseated and fatigued. I can’t function correctly and it’s getting in the way of everyday tasks. It’s honestly thrown me into a depression because I can barely leave the house because of how bad it’s gotten. My husband is against things like this but I am just so unhappy…also it is banned in our state so that would mean we have to travel out of state. I am just so tired and ready to give up, I know I might get hate for this but it’s okay.

Answer

Try and hold out 4 more weeks and you’ll feel much better physically <3

Answer

You didn’t say anything about how you’d feel after baby is born. Only how unhappy you are right now. That’s totally valid, it’s just that a lot of women who get abortion from stress of pregnancy vs unwanted baby end up having a lot of regrets and that could make your depression even worse.

Answer

You sit down and have an open honest conversation. Tell him all you want him to do is listen first and then you want his feedback. 
Tell your husband about your excitement when you first found out. Go in great detail and include how you both felt finding out about your other 2 kids. 
Then tell him how you’re feeling now. Tell him every struggle and pain and fear. Also talk about any difficulties you’ve had with your previous pregnancies. 
Lastly tell your husband specifically in great detail how he can help you through this. Every. Single. Thing. That is when you inform him that you are having thoughts about not carrying full term. 
I have no doubt that your husband will understand, will do all he can to help, and assure you that everything you’re feeling is valid but that it will pass. 
It’s important to have the conversation because your feelings matter. Your husband definitely should be aware of how much this is throwing you. 
I hope this answers your question and I personally don’t think you should make that long term decision for a short term conflict. You’re not a bad mom, you’re a pregnant woman 😘 Take care of you for these next several weeks and let dad be super dad 😉

Answer

I know it's rough. I felt the same when i was pregnant with my son. But let me tell you... I'd be pregnant for 10 yrs straight if it meant having him at the end. Hang in there, it'll be worth it <3

Answer

I end up very very sick with each of my pregnancies (currently expecting baby #6) and I always have to get put on meds and they do help a bit. Definitely worth giving your doctor a call and seeing if they can give you something to help you out until morning sickness passes.

Answer

The first trimester is tough. The depression maybe clouding your judgement. Please make an appointment with your pcp today and get a therapist referral

Answer

You are talking about how you feel right now, and I understand you feel overwhelmed and sick. Give it a little longer for symptoms to alleviate and for you to not make rash decisions. 
How will an abortion affect you in the future? How will it effect you husband or your relationship?

Answer

Sounds like you need help round the house right now. Is there anyone who can help? Family? Friends? A temp nanny or maid? 
Also, If you don’t want this baby than you shouldn’t have it. No shame in that at all. 
If you do, than remember that the way you are feeling now is temporary and you should start feeling better in the second trimester. 
Sending hugs and love ❤️

How do I tell my husband I want an ab*rtion?

Let’s Glow

Glow is here for you on your path to pregnancy

25+ million

4.8 stars

20+

Getting Pregnant

Pregnancy

1st Year (Baby & You)

Baby Products