Husband stayed out all night and is calling me controlling because I’m upset about it

Husband and I have been married for 10 years. Have two sets of twins and a singleton. I’m a SAHM by his choice, he’s the breadwinner and uses it as an excuse to do what he wants most of the time. All of our kids are under 10.

He came home from work yesterday at around 330. He usually works saturdays but said he was taking the day off to catch up on sleep and spend time with our kids and I since he works 10 hour days. At about 430 he tells me he’s going to over to his friends house. Didn’t ask. Told me. I asked when he would be home he said it depended what they ended up doing? I got a text at 11pm last night that he drank too much and wasn’t coming home. Didn’t even call me, just texted me. I was pissed but had to be up with our baby in a few hours so just went to bed. It’s now 3pm the next day and he still isn’t home. His friend works today, owns his own business, so I asked what he was doing since his friend is working and he told me he’s sitting at his friends business hanging out with him and he’ll be home later. No apology. He is now saying I’m overbearing and controlling because I’m upset that he’s not even trying to get home to see our kids. Am I over reacting here? He’s painting me as a horrible wife and saying I’m crazy and that none of his friends wives would care if they did this because they understand they have lives outside of their wife and kids? Opinions would be great.