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Yes! I can relate after a missed miscarriage and D&C at 9weeks, and another miscarriage 7 months later. I obviously can't speak for you, but based on my own experience, you could be subconsciously protecting your heart by telling yourself it might not be a good idea? I know I did that unknowingly after so much heartache.
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Hi all!
Not really sure where to post to apologies if it’s in the wrong group.
I had to have a medical termination in October due to a missed miscarriage. This would have been my 4th child. I think about them everyday.
Myself and my partner haven’t been using protection since but I’ve not fallen pregnant. I’m now starting to wonder if I should even be adding another child.
I know I wouldn’t regret it and I’ve always wanted 4 children max however I’m not sure anymore if it’s sensible? Particularly financially. We’d make it work but it would add a lot of pressure. I just don’t want to regret not having another.
I was planning on getting my tubes tied after the one I lost in October.
If you’ve read on, I guess my question is, has anyone been in the same boat on questioning another child and what did you decide/feel regarding your decision?
Thanks ☺️
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Dear that was just 3 months ago and youre grieving. Now is not the time to make any major decisions as your loss may be affecting your mindset. After my d&c from mmc (it was to be my 3rd baby and was a post heartbeat loss) I grieved for about a year. I actually got pregnant a few months post d&c and it was more difficult emotionally than I thought it was going to be because I didnt realize how much I was still grieving. I actually had my tubes done after my 4th child and regret it even though I was so sure I was done. Give yourself time to fully grieve and then reevaluate.
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