Bf having intimate videos of me

Hi everyone!

So to begin this post, my bf recorded us having sex without my consent on my phone during backshots, I did not give him permission to record period but he “made me feel better” by it being on my phone. Yesterday we were playing around and showing each other our hidden pictures, and he asked if he can see the video that he recorded. I said ok, he went behind my back and sent the videos to himself.

I have trauma where a past partner had intimate videos of me and taunted me with them (threatening to leak them), and my Bf knows this, so I don’t know why he would do this!!!! I really want him to delete them and I don’t know how to understand how to make him understand why I don’t like being recorded in the first place!!! I really like him but i don’t like how he crossed that boundary. Literally what should I do??