Therapy is a scam & made me worse

Before anybody gets mad — I’m speaking solely from MY experience, if you had a good session with a therapist and actually got something from it; it still doesn’t negate my experience. I’m 25. Have been through SA, extreme bullying and overall severe psychological damage. Growing up, my only friends were people I’d meet on places like Fantage or poptropica because nobody liked me in real life. There’s been tons of times in my life where I’ve felt like I don’t belong anywhere. Like how everyone finds there “tribe” and their “people” — I truly believe that there is nothing like that for ME out there. I’ve been in therapy since I was 17 after a traumatic abortion I had after being SA’ed for the umpteenth time. I’ve changed therapists 5 times, blown through at least 40-50k and therapy has not helped me AT ALL.

Most therapy is surface level advice, “How does that make you feel?” “What do you think will change that?”

“You have to stop thinking negatively”

It’s all SH*T you can mostly google, or look at on TikTok or even get from a self help app. I had a therapist remind me that our session was almost over while I was opening up about my SA that occurred when I was 8 and it lowkey broke me even more then I’m already broken. Therapy is a sham. You’re laying out all your emotional traumas, deepest darkest traumas for wikiHow advice that won’t benefit you in the long run and could apply to ANYBODIES SITUATION. And then when people tell me “Oh maybe you’re just not trying hard enough” “Maybe you’re not putting enough into therapy” umm??? I’ve told AT LEAST 5 different therapists ALL of my traumas including Every single SA and physical abuse/harsh bullying I’ve ever experienced — I’ve talked about these in detail to these therapists. I tell them how I’m feeling. I tell them I’m feeling hopeless. What ELSE do I have to do? Breathing exercises every time I talk so the therapy can work? Do I have to journal then go to therapy so it can work? They say therapy is supposed to be for “tools” and “coping” mechanisms but HOW when you’re not receiving any tools from them? HOW when the “tools” they’re giving you is the same thing you already know/could’ve googled for FREE? It’s been a push in the last 5 years that therapy is some fix all solution, I can’t count how many times I’ve heard other people tell traumatized people “you need to go to therapy” as if them going to therapy and paying $300 a hour to talk about them being molested as a child is supposed to make them feel okay about it or erase it or get over that trauma. One therapist I had — she barely even talked, she basically charged me for being a soundboard for all my traumas. I struggle with loneliness, and I’m not a very friendly person in public since I struggle with severe social anxiety from the years of bullying so I don’t have friends. Going to therapy made me feel even more lonely, I remember crying in my therapists office and thinking “Im paying this lady hundreds to cry in front of her when I should be out enjoying my life…” ALREADY struggling with loneliness just to end up paying $300 a hour to feel MORE lonely. So lonely that I have to pay to have someone pretend they care and that they’re my sounding board. I know a relative personally who’s been in therapy for the last 10 years and is still the same narcissistic, pushy intolerant A hole that they were BERORE the therapy.